This is my first time making a comment here and I gotta compliment you on your theme.

The comment bubbles clearly and uniquely note who’s saying what.

For anyone looking for an example of how to explode your business through networking look no further than Harlan Kilstein.

This guy went from a nobody to a somebody real fast.

In his Value Based Copywriting Seminar he talks about an NLP technique he uses when he uses to get strangers to trust him at “Hi, I’m _____.

He calls it the unconscious hello.

Here’s my notes I took about it…

The technique is to replay someones greeting right back to them. Mimic physiology-head tilt, smile, replay his hello right back to them. What does that mean to him on a sub-conscious level? I’m a friendly.

He knows he can trust me. On a subconscious level in less than seconds, he knows he can trust me so what I’m gonna do is anchor that feeling by looking off over his right ear.

Now anytime I want to speak directly to his sub conscious, all I need to do is turn and look over his right ear. And that same feeling of trust comes back. Total time expended: 10 seconds.

What does this mean? Because you’re a friendly, they trust you and they open themselves up. Literally within minutes they’ll start sharing every aspect of their life with you.

The Steps…

ONE: Put yourself in neutral state. Because if you don’t you’re contaminating the scene of the future crime. Go up and say hello. Pay attention to what they’re doing with their face, with their eyes, with their head or with their shoulders.

Whatever they do, do it right back to them. What’ll happen is there’s this flash of recognition and then they’ll smile or do something else. Copy whatever they do. Typically they’ll smile.

When you’ve gotten that second acknowledgment from them just look over their right ear. This anchors it. Whenever you want to communicate you’re a friendly, you do this and it triggers the trusting part of them. And you’re done. You got it.

People have really unique hellos. People never accuse you of copying them.

Mighty powerful technique. This won’t work unless you start doing this every single day.

Note Taking Nerd

http://www.mynotetakingnerd.wordpress.com

The upside, though, is that we wouldn’t need as much space at home. Smaller house = less money. So the cost of the office space is off-set by money saved on a house.

One idea: Find another solo-preneur to split the cost of a small office.

I get out to a couple of seminars a year and meet with people both in person and virtually through Skype conference calls on a regular basis. It makes a huge difference to actually get out and talk to people one-on-one and get to know them beyond their forum “handle”.

I’ve also considered renting an office close to home so I can actually go to work – and by extension “come home” at the end of the day. When the office is just down the hall, it’s too easy to slip in there at night to just get one more thing done.

@Dr. Michael – Yes, public speaking is one thing all the “big guns” have in common. It’s also one thing most online business people won’t do.

It’s much easier for me judge character and “read” someone when I meet them face to face. By way of example…once I met you (Ryan) I realized you’re truly who you purport to be online. You’re unashamed of your Christian faith, and you talk like you write.

Hopefully I gave the same impression, and that’s what I strive for whether I’m writing or talking.

To your health,
Tony

@Arieljoy – I agree. It’s hard to have strong connections with forum participants until you actually meet them.

@Kevin – I didn’t know that about Dan. Thanks for sharing!

Your premise is right on the money!

So, I will get used to it, I suppose, and online therapy does have its upsides. For example, many people are not able to physically be at a therapy appointment. Some have childcare considerations. For others there may be dynamics of fear and shame that come into play and they are simply more comfortable not being “seen” by a therapist. Although a case could be made that people having these issues are the ones that ABSOLUTELY should be showing up in person, the fact remains that many would not seek help at all were it not for the anonymity of the internet. In this type of case, treatment might involve helping the client to release enough of the shame that he or she could actually meet me face-to-face.

Anyway, I obviously connected to this post. Thanks.

Speak soon,
Arieljoy

I completely agree. Here I sit in my nice home office making money, but you know what? It’s miserable. There’s no one around. I want some change, I need people. Both people who think like an entrepreneur and some who don’t. A variety.

And when I say “entrepreneur” types I DON’T mean those guys trying to make a life outta selling someone else’s pills, or someone else’s stupid juice product. I want to be around people with “REAL” businesses and “real” services that provide a unique value to people (and don’t have ANYTHING to do with real estate or financial services, I am so sick of that crap, too). I hate it when these guys here in St Louis get around me and all they can talk about are their stupid juice, pills, and real estate brokerage.

What ever happened to the days where people actually created new and interesting things themselves?

Or people who *gasp* actually MANUFACTURE something, like say, high-end leather luggage. Whatever, just something real.

As for me, I’m in the info business and I create all my own stuff; I’m not pawning off someone else’s crap, hoping to make a lousy percentage.

It’s no physical product gig that’ll last generations and passed down to children, but at least it’s not Mona-Vie or whatever.

Rant over :)